Abuse: Hidden in Plain Sight
A significant obstacle for those who say they “are opposed to abuse” and “want to stand up for victims” is that many, yes, even many trained professionals don’t recognize abuse when it is happening right …
Nobody ever causes their own abuse
Nobody ever causes their own abuse. I am a trained systems therapist, with 26 years of practice behind me. I am trained to both believe that each person plays a role in a relational system …
Pathways to Sanity
We think it is anger. But I believe it is more. I believe our anger is just an outward symptom of other ills that are best understood by thinking differently. We watch from our varied …
Think Differently Learn Differently
His eyes focused on the white ball, centered exactly at the point of his cue. Sliding the cue back and forth, his eyes took in the target and all the green felt that lay between his cue stick and his intended target.
Spiritual Maturity
When did the word “Christian” cease to mean “Christlike”? How can so many grow up in a church culture and so few be truly spiritually mature? The answer must be found in our understanding and view of …
Trust
They say that among those who have the most difficult time with trauma, are those who have stood on buckling ground in the midst of an earthquake. It is this betrayal by the planet of …
Hope
(Note: Continuing along the line of sharing my journey from 2014. This year has shaped a number of things in my soul, and it feels important to start the year writing about this journey. It …
Needs
(Note: This is by far the most personal blog I have ever written. While it is still about thinking differently, it has been one of the most profound experiences of my recent history.) It rose up inside …
Background: The Context to Right Conversations
Change the world? Yes please, but first we have to engage our culture. Engage the culture? First we have to learn to steer clear of destructive conversations. This is part four in a series on …
Questions: The Doorway to Right Conversations
“How are you doing?” he asked.